Marsha Sutton: Teens, alcohol — rethinking a failed approach
This will sound like blasphemy; certain topics are off-limits. But perhaps, in light of the tragedy that befell five Torrey Pines High School teens over the weekend, it’s time to rethink our approach to keeping kids safe from the dangers of alcohol. We need to open our minds to the possibility that some of our assumptions about what works may be all wrong.
Kids drink. It’s a given. Oh sure, there are exceptions. I’m not interested in anecdotal evidence about how “my teen” would never drink and neither do his or her friends. Let me assure you that, if not now, soon. If they don’t try alcohol in high school, chances are they will in college - when parents aren’t there to help guide them.
My son, who’s a sophomore in college, told me last year that the worst alcohol abusers in college were those kids who never touched a drop in high school. This is a common observation - I’ve heard it from kids at other universities as well. Those “newbies” get wasted almost every weekend. Most survive it … most.
Programs about alcohol abuse and binge drinking are readily accessible at all college campuses, for all the good it does. My son’s 8,000-student college in the Midwest reported, rather proudly I might add, that this year only four students were sent to the emergency room for alcohol poisoning during Freshman Welcome Week, down from eight last year. I suppose that’s good news, but it hardly seems cause for celebration - especially if you’re the parent of one of the four.
In high school, finding that rare student who has never tried alcohol is a challenge. Every survey, formal or informal, supports the obvious - teens drink.
Results from the California Healthy Kids Survey, conducted by researchers at the University of California San Diego, show that, in 2007 at Torrey Pines High School, 67 percent of 11th-graders abused alcohol in the previous 30 days, up from 42 percent of 11th-graders in 2005. I wonder how high the numbers would be if the question weren’t time-limited.
Twenty-four percent said they had engaged in binge drinking in the past 30 days. Frighteningly, 33 percent admitted to driving drunk or riding in a car with someone who had been drinking.
Survey results for Torrey Pines reflect trends nation-wide - nothing unusual about these statistics. Alarming, yes - but unusual, no.
Will this terrible accident change anything? One TPHS senior, who was quoted in the North County Times in a story Monday, seems to think so. “This could have happened to any one of us,” she said. “This was a huge wake-up call.”
I’m skeptical. As tragic as this is - one student dead, one seriously injured, one detained by authorities and facing charges of DUI and vehicular manslaughter - time will pass and students forget. That sense of immortality will take over, and kids will once again engage in risky behavior. It’s inevitable.
Then there’s this part: “This could have happened to any one of us.” That says it all.
It’s a clear indication that the problem is widespread and that whatever adults are saying to raise awareness is not working.
We did it when we were young - admit it. Many of us had those moments in our teen years that we regretfully look back on today and thank our lucky stars we made it out alive.
Our culture glorifies alcohol consumption. It’s a coveted symbol of adulthood that’s forbidden to anyone under 21. And adults drink. Kids see it; alcohol is served at adult gatherings and is portrayed in the media as an essential ingredient for fun.
Add in age restrictions against drinking and you’ve got an explosive combination - glorification and prohibition. Underage drinking becomes almost irresistible.
The U.S. is one of only a handful of countries in the world with a drinking age of 21. For nearly every nation in the world, 18 is the legal drinking age - although in some countries it’s even lower, or nonexistent at all. And hardly anywhere is the problem as great as we have in this country.
There is a body of evidence that suggests that prohibiting 18-, 19- and 20-year-olds to drink is absurd, when they are allowed every other right earned to them upon reaching the age of majority - including serving in the armed forces, voting, owning cars and property, marrying, bearing children, being tried as adults in criminal cases, owning firearms. Yet we won’t allow married couples under the age of 21 to even enjoy a glass of champagne at their wedding - or soldiers laying their lives on the line to have a beer.
The Amethyst Initiative, launched in July 2008, is a nationwide petition signed by 135 university presidents so far that asks the public to rethink the drinking age. They maintain that the glamour associated with alcohol and dangerous binge drinking on college campuses would significantly decrease if the minimum legal drinking age of 21 were lowered.
“When students turn 21, it takes the mystique away from drinking,” Tracy Cassalia, the health educator at the University of Richmond, was reported as saying. “Once it becomes legal it loses something.”
We’ve set up local organizations and programs all designed to educate kids to the dangers of drinking and drug use. The San Dieguito Alliance for Drug-Free Youth, led by Judi Strang, is exemplary. Strang and her team work tirelessly to educate the community to the dangers children face.
The San Dieguito Union High School District offers a terrific intervention program called READI - the Recovery Education and Alcohol/Drug Instruction program. Students who’ve been drinking or are high at school or school functions can be referred to the READI program, as can any student who simply chooses to enroll.
These groups and others like them are run by well-meaning adults who care deeply about the welfare of our kids. Their sincerity and commitment to the cause are unassailable. But are their approaches effective?
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When tactics include suggesting that alcohol use can lead to heroin addiction, an approach I’ve seen used, I have to wonder if we’re on the right track. It’s reminiscent of the old movie “Reefer Madness” when we insult children’s intelligence by linking alcohol to serious drug use. As in the movie, where pot smokers went berserk, kids laugh at such preposterous connections and dismiss the larger point.
Sure, heroin addicts may have started with alcohol. But they also may drink coffee. Does coffee lead to heroin use? Are the one-glass-of-wine-a-night drinkers recovering heroin addicts who brought themselves back from the brink of disaster by some miracle? It’s nonsense, and kids aren’t buying it any more than we do.
These approaches are dishonest and counter-productive. Kids are too smart to believe such falsehoods, and we lose them when we try to flood them with scare tactics that they know are lies.
So we have a problem. What to do about it?
Readers will sense my ambivalence as I gingerly approach this idea that’s been stirring around in my head for a few years. I’m going out on a limb here to suggest that perhaps instead of teaching them not to drink, we should instead be teaching them how to drink.
Hear me out. Do we ignore the inevitable and fight against it, shutting down communication between parent and child when we deny reality? Or do we anticipate what’s certain to happen and do our best to arm them with experience and knowledge that can save their lives?
Teaching them not to drink and drive is a must. Teaching them not to ride with someone who’s been drinking is a must. Reminding them that one boy is dead, one seriously injured and another is in jail may have some impact, for as long as it lasts.
But memories fade, peer pressure kicks in, and another crop of seniors in a few years won’t even know what happened here this weekend.
Teaching teens never to drink until they are 21 because their brains will fry or they will vomit blood (a comment I once heard from an educator to scare kids) is not just deceitful and disrespectful but will close off all further chances to educate them on the matter.
But teaching them that 12 ounces of vodka is a hell of a lot different than a 12-ounce bottle of beer is a bit of practical advice that might keep them alive a lot longer.
Am I suggesting that adults let the alcohol flow freely around their kids and their underage friends? Absolutely not. Should parents be held legally responsible for unsupervised parties or social gatherings where alcohol is served in their homes? Absolutely. Strict enforcement of social host laws would go a long way toward keeping our kids from harm.
Parents who turn a blind eye toward what’s going on under their roofs are as culpable as the kids who drive drunk. And we cannot pretend that there aren’t parties going on all over our neighborhoods where alcohol is provided to minors.
But more needs to be done, with fresh eyes to the problem. Consider this analogy: In sex education classes, do we teach absolute abstinence or do we instruct kids to use condoms? We may not like it that many of them are having sex, but is it better to turn from the truth or protect them with knowledge?
Can we consider safe ways of removing the mystery surrounding alcohol use? Perhaps we can look to other countries like France and Italy, where moderate alcohol consumption by teenage children is common, to see how alcohol is part of the family social dynamic, minus the excessive abuse that we experience in the U.S.
Too many lives are at risk each minute that we deny the obvious. When children die senseless deaths, it just takes our breath away. We have to find an effective way to help kids navigate this perilous path, and we must present our case in ways they’ll be receptive to. And strict prohibition or lies about consequences aren’t cutting it.
Marsha Sutton writes for Carmel Valley News where this column originally appeared. She can be reached at: SuttComm(a)san.rr.com.
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Comment by: Russell Angelico Posted: October 9, 2009, 1:35 pm
Interesting thoughts. As a young person I’m probably extremely biased but I agree with all your points and would take them further. Yes, acknowledgement of the truth and facts of teen/young adult drinking is necessary. But something tangible is needed to accompany every abstract change we can make as an educated, safe society: lowering the drinking age. The risks involved are trumped by the societal rewards of understanding alcohol use the way it was meant to be understood - as something that can be good and acceptable in moderation or used heavily in SAFE, controlled environments (that’s my college student soul talking, feel free to ignore it
Comment by: Marsha Sutton Posted: October 9, 2009, 4:30 pm
Just had comments from a few parents who are suggesting that raising the driving age from 16 to 18 would go a long way toward curbing the potential for tragedy. Thoughts on that?
Comment by: Cledus Maggard Posted: October 9, 2009, 7:01 pm
I’m not a young person. I’m about the same age as Marsha Sutton. I agree with her and with the previous commentator. While in Europe, an Italian tour bus driver told me he would never drive in America because our young people are given car keys before they’re taught to respect the power of alcohol.
Comment by: Cledus Maggard Posted: October 9, 2009, 7:02 pm
And I don’t care what the specific ages are, but teenagers should not be allowed to drive until they’ve been allowed to drink legally for at least two years.
Comment by: Daniel Gettinger Posted: October 10, 2009, 12:42 pm
A few points:
1) Some teens do get into car crashes after having consumed alcohol. But so do adults. Raising the driving age will, by virtue of eliminating an entire class of drivers reduce drunk-driving incidents, but there are also significant costs to doing so. I doubt many parents will be thrilled chauffeuring their kids around for an additional two years, particular their 16-18 years, an age range in which many are leaving the house more than ever. The argument that “even one life saved is worth it” is not good enough. Society could certainly save a few more lives by investing millions of additional dollars in extra police protection, but it is not efficient to do so. Same with raising the driving age from 16 to 18.
2) I agree the drinking age should be lowered to 18 from 21. But not because the “mystique of drinking” wears off if it is legal. It does not. I recently turned 21, and my friends drink just as much as they ever have. Last year, I studied in London, where the drinking age is 18. Students there drank significantly more than the students I have observed here in America. Of course this evidence is purely anecdotal and might not hold if the observation sample is extended.
3) If our goal is reduce drunk driving, the best way to do so is also the simplest: raise the costs of driving drunk, and decrease the costs of the alternatives. Our society does not seem to view drunk drivers as the dangerous criminals that they are. People convicted of a DUI for the first time rarely serve jail time, and assuming nobody got injured, the crime is viewed as a simple mistake. If the punishment was more severe (jail time served, and a large fine levied), more people will choose to call a cab, or designate a driver prior to alcoholic consumption. In addition, the costs of alternatives must be lowered. Parents should tell their kids that it is okay to call them if they need a pickup. Regardless of the time of night. And they must be sincere about it. In addition, parents should encourage their children to sleep over at friend’s house if needed. Parents who allow their kids to host parties should insist on designated sleeping rooms, where kids can feel comfortable crashing for the evening. Sometimes, people drive drunk not because they want to, but because they feel like there are no reasonable alternatives.
Comment by: Debbie Nale Posted: October 10, 2009, 5:48 pm
I like the idea of raising the age for a drivers license. It seems that most serious car accidents are 16 yr. olds who have gotten ahold of alcohol. And yes, they do know how to get alcohol. Great atrticle! Try as you might, you will NOT stop teens from drinking, especially those driving. Driving means freedom, adulthood to a teen. so what do they do? Abuse it.
Comment by: Elizabeth Posted: October 12, 2009, 11:09 am
For me, it is all about statistics and numbers.
While every drinking and driving death is a tragedy, we have to thank those who have taken a firm stand against drunk driving with stricter laws, because the fact remains the number of drunk driving fatalities is down. The numbers don’t lie. With stricter laws we have less deaths. With safer cars we have less deaths. With seat belt laws we have less deaths. (For your younger readers seat belts were optional at one time, and there was quite a fight to preserve freedom and make seat belts a choice…can you imagine not wearing a seat belt today?)
We are making strides against drunk driving and to say we should go back to having teens drink at 18 is counter intuititive. “They are going to drink so let them drink at 18 rather than 21″ is the most ridiculous argument I have ever heard. That would be like saying “well they wore a seat belt, but died anyway”. Should we ditch seat belt laws? It just doesn’t make sense. Then add all the new information we have learned about teen age brain development…scientists have concluded that reason and judgement are last to develop. Last to develop. Letting them drink legally at 18 seems ridiculous when you know that fact.
Changing the drinking age back to 18, because “Europeans” do it, is absurd. We live in a community where scientific minds prevail. Read the data, look at the results. Progress has been made. No we are not there yet, but we are making improvements.
Did you know that there have been 73% less alcohol related arrestes in Pacific Beach since the Booze ban was enacted? The government, and you and I who pay taxes, cannot affort to pay for the party anymore. We cannot afford the loss of life, and the cost associated with policing the activity. Look no further than Pacific Beach to see that the alcohol ban has proven this. Yes, are kids still going to get drunk, yes, but making it more difficult seems to be a pretty darn good deterent. Ask any public official, lifeguard, fireman or police officer if the new law works in Pacific Beach… if that new law has helped with crime, death rates, public drunkeness, even pollution..and they will all give you a resounding “yes”. Shouldn’t we listen to what they have to say? They are the ones out there and see it and working it every day; they are so thankful for the new law. Ask them. They tell the real story.
Whose civil liberty is more important, allowing an 18 year old to drink or the Mother of an 18 year old who was killed by a drunk driver?
Don’t ever doubt the numbers; the numbers say the efforts on educating people on drunk driving, along with stricter drunk driving laws all work.
My heart breaks for everyone in this tragedy, and in so many senseless tragedies that have ocurred before this. But I hope we always rely on science and real data to enact laws that protect our citizens. These laws work. The data proves it.
Here is an excerpt from MADD, Mother’s against Drunk Driving, it details how they started and how far they have come…after reading it, could you imagine going back in time? I say “no way to drinking at 18″.
“Twenty-five years ago, a heartbroken mother made a pledge in her
deceased daughter’s bedroom. She would do something about the
outrage of drunk driving—a decision that quickly inspired a handful
of grieving, determined mothers to join in the fight. Though united
in cause, they had no office, no money and no clout. In fact, all they had
was sorrow, pluck and a picture of a pretty, 13-year-old girl killed by a
drunk driver. Yet they initiated one of the great grassroots successes in
American history. n They were as their name suggests: MADD. As their
fledgling organization grew, they stood toe to toe with politicians who knew
the stats but did not act. They took on a powerful industry that put profit
over safety. They challenged a society that viewed drinking and driving as
acceptable—even laughable. And they caused a visceral reaction. The
getting there wasn’t easy. It was tough. It was messy. And it was fraught
with obstacles. Yet MADD proved, time and time again, that it would not
be bullied or derailed. In fact, MADD blazed a trail that other organizations
have since followed. They made hard, cold statistics come to life.
They did not just say that drunk driving killed thousands and injured
millions.
They held up photographs—and described every nuance of their
loved ones’ lives—to prove it. As a result, a mountain of traffic safety
and victims’ rights legislation has been passed. Annual alcohol-related traffic
fatalities have dropped from an estimated 30,000 in 1980 to fewer than
17,000 today. And, perhaps most important, society no longer views drunk
driving as acceptable. Looking back over 25 years, it’s an amazing story. A
grieving mother’s determination sparked a volunteer movement that swept
the nation and has saved hundreds of thousands of lives.”
Comment by: Right Wing Pride Posted: October 13, 2009, 8:58 am
MADD became a neo-prohibitionist lobby full of lies and corruption.Their stats are just a written paper.We must to look at real facts with our own eyes.The fact is 21 law creates paradise for underage drinkings and emboldens young adults to drink in dangerously heavy doses that leads to tragedies including DUIs.
Comment by: Jackson-town Posted: October 13, 2009, 12:53 pm
There are so many issues here. One is safety. One is freedom. In other words the whole Political Theory 101 Hobbesian struggle between freedom and security.
One issue is the civil rights of young adults over the age of 18 who can serve the country in the military (and kill, be killed, be seriously physically and psychologically wounded); be adult entertainment models; use tobacco products (number two cause of preventable death in the US); vote; pay taxes; work; serve as jurors; get married; etc., yet cannot legally drink even though everyone knows that outside of certain religious communities (such as observant Mormons and Muslims), almost all young adults consume alcoholic beverages in social situations.
Then there is the whole driving issue. In most other advanced industrial nations, one needs to be at least 18 years old to drive. It is also more difficult and expensive to get a license. Rules against drunk driving are enforced seriously with more significant penalties. However, in most advanced industrial nations, there is also excellent public transportation (buses, subways, trams, commuter trains, high speed trains, long distance trains, etc.) and usually more walkable and bicycle accessible communities. Until the US catches up with the rest of the world in public transportation, it will be difficult to make the case that the driving age should be raised to 18 (that should be the eventual goal), given the need for young adults under 18 to work and to have the beginnings of adult responsibilities and freedom.
Then we have the “mourning mother syndrome” which is evidenced by MADD which has evolved into a non-compromising prohibitionist organization that focuses on the “drinking” part but not enough on the “driving” part. Because of the emotional aspect of the “mourning mother”, to which we can all identify, politicians do the easy thing and thoughtlessly pass populist legislation that is damaging or infringes upon civil rights instead of doing the right thing which is thoughtful and rational discourse. It is just as horrible for a 30 year old drunk driver to kill innocent people as it is for anyone under 21 or under 18 to commit these crimes. We need to make sure that no one drinks and drives. Education, law, stringent enforcement and especially alternatives to driving need to be promoted.
Another whole issue is the infantilization of youth. Throughout history and in most of the world today, young adults under the age of 18, were considered adults. In much of the world, a large portion of those whose age correspond to our high school age population, especially those older ones who are 16 and 17, are often working full time and often also parents themselves. We expect young adult to take on incredible pressures to succeed academically in order to get into the “right college”. We encourage them to be very active with sports, extracurricular activities, volunteer activities, etc. We encourage them to work long hours in entry level service jobs so that they can have money for college plus have work experience. Yet we allow them almost no freedoms and rights.
As a parent I find it frustrating, that unless I travel to another nation, I cannot properly teach my son the adult “pastime” of responsible alcohol consumption. Outside of certain conservative religious communities, any parent who seriously expects their son or daughter to wait until they are 21 (or even 18) to drink is being naive. If I wait to my son is 21, it will be far too late, as if he is a normal kid with a social life, he will have been drinking since he was 18 or probably even sooner.
Yes, I can and do allow my son to have a beer at home with “his old man” once and awhile a(legal at least in my state) and, yes, he is reluctantly learning how to sip a glass of wine at dinner at home with his parents, but I cannot allow him to have even a small party with alcohol without committing a crime. I cannot bring him to a bar or even a restaurant so he can have his first drink with his father.
We also have the facts that the high drinking age is causing more harm than it would be otherwise. There is a whole movement revolving around the Choose Responsibility organization that strongly suggests that empirical data indicates that the drinking age of 21 only causes more binge drinking and more irresponsible situations concerning alcohol.
The most important thing to do is to have a rational discussion without allowing emotion to cloud reason on the issues of transportation alternatives, driving ages, drunk driving, drinking ages, youth rights, etc.
Comment by: Torrey Pines Falcon Posted: October 13, 2009, 4:36 pm
“even though everyone knows that outside of certain religious communities (such as observant Mormons and Muslims), almost all young adults consume alcoholic beverages in social situations.”
I’d just like to let everyone know that not all youth are drinking. I’m a junior at Torrey Pines, and while drinking does happen, the majority of the students are not. I am “a normal kid with a social life”. The majority (90%) of my friends abstain from alcohol as well. We are by no means social outcasts. We’re just smart.
Our parents have raised us well. We don’t abstain because of our religion. We know that it’s wrong to drink illegally. We know that we don’t always make the best decisions, and that alcohol will only further impair our decision making. I do not feel like my rights are being infringed at all. And while you may argue that I’ll soon be able to kill in war, I believe that 18 is too young for our nation’s youth to be sent off, anyway.
And despite what you may say, my decision to follow the law and abstain from alcohol until I’m 21 won’t change when I get to college. The lessons I’ve learned- from my parents, Red Ribbon Weeks at school, and unfortunately, the past week- have taught me the importance of smart decision making.
I do not condone illegal drinking at all, and neither do my parents. You, the parent who allows a child to have alcohol, are the one at fault. You’re telling your child it’s okay, when it’s not. You and your child are not above the law, whatever your political opinions are.
So characterize Torrey Pines as you may, but the majority of us Falcons are enjoying high school without alcohol. While this is a tragic accident and we are all mourning, it should be used to further exemplify the pitfalls of underaged drinking, not as reason to lower the drinking age further.
Comment by: JSearles Posted: October 14, 2009, 5:50 am
A very well-written piece. However, Ms. Sutton’s data source appears to be the anecdotal reports by her son. On the other side, there are literally hundreds of scientific studies published in peer-reviewed journals that demonstrate the devastating effects of a lower drinking age. There are at least 5 scientific studies that have been published this year alone which support MLDA-21( and more in the pipeline). There are NO studies demonstrating a positive benefit to loweredc MLDA. A previous commentator (Jackson-town) seems to think that MLDA-21 is “causing more harm.” However, he does not specify a particular mechanism by which this would occur or how increasing access to alcohol in this age group would result in a decrease in alcohol-related injuries. The idea that 18-year old individuals would somehow act responsibly because they were expected to is not a sound psychological theory and enjoys not one iota of empirical support
Another argument is that a 21-year old drinking age discriminates against these individuals unfairly. However, there are other areas that carry either government or industry minimum age requirements. The US Constitution requires an individual to be 25 years old to be a member of congress, 30 to be a senator, and 35 to be president. In addition, it is illegal for anyone in the US under the age of 21 to purchase a handgun or qualify for an interstate commercial driver’s license. State governed casinos in the US do not allow individuals under the age of 21 to enter or gamble; most rental car companies will not rent a car to individuals under the age of 25, and it is quite difficult for anyone under the age of 21 to rent a hotel room. These are reasonable age restrictions based on an approach that recognizes that at least some responsibility accrues with increasing developmental age.
Comment by: Rob H. Posted: October 19, 2009, 4:34 pm
“As a parent I find it frustrating, that unless I travel to another nation, I cannot properly teach my son the adult “pastime” of responsible alcohol consumption.”
Perhaps you should take a look at the law, instead of the myths perpetrated by the alcohol industry. You, as a parent, have every legal right to teach your child about responsible drinking. In your own home, or at private gatherings, it is perfectly legal for your child to drink alcohol under your supervision. That is the law here in California; media reports indicate that some 30 other states have similar laws.
In short, it is your DUTY AS A PARENT to teach your child about responsible drinking. Whether or not you drink, you must do more than just badger your child into promising not to drink. Leaving alcohol education up to the student life advisors at a college has proven to be a waste of time, and of young lives.
It’s not the university staff’s job to teach your child about alcohol; it’s their job to teach your child physics, geometry, English, etc.
It’s YOUR job to teach your child about alcohol.
Why can’t your child drink, under your supervision, in a restaurant? Because alcohol servers have enough problems determining who’s 21 and who isn’t. Are you proposing that your son be able to enjoy a beer or glass of wine with dinner? In theory, a fine idea. In practice, it simply opens the door for other adults to pose as your child’s parent, and ply them with alcohol. Do you really want to carry your son’s birth certificate when you go out to dinner? Do you really want a cocktail waitress who can barely check I-D’s to be the last line of defense against your son’s improper initiation into the adult “pastime” of drinking? Should a security guard in a stadium parking lot bear the same responsibility? Allowing a “parent” to supervise their child’s drinking in a public setting is simply unworkable.
Step up. Be a responsible parent. Teach your child about responsible drinking at home, or at social gatherings where you can supervise their consumption. It is your legal right, and it’s your responsibility as a parent.